Should I get married to someone only because we have a child? Even if I dont think he is the right one to marry??

Angela,

Thanks for the question. This is Tony Isaacs. I have personally counseled several people who have faced this situation. The short answer is no! Scripture does not directly answer this specific question, however it provides principles that guide us.

The person you marry is based upon your faith not circumstances. 2 Cor. 6:14 says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"

If you make a mistake (sexual relationships out of marriage) it does not merit making another mistake to make it "right". The questions a person should be asking are, "Do I love this person?, Can I live without this person?, Is this person a Christian?, or more importantly, Is this person a growing Christian?"

Marriage is based on love and commitment, not obligation (peer pressure) or fear. In the "old days" people would call this a shotgun wedding because it was the "honorable" thing to do. But, unfortunately, for many it was another mistake.

I realize that it may be scary to face life as a single parent, but it's better than being in a lifelong marriage commitment with the wrong person. Whenever considering marriage to someone, you should do so prayerfully- even if he is a Christian. Let the Holy Spirit guide you.